January 3, 2018

Social Media Perceptions

I've been having a lot of interesting conversations with people lately about social media and the things that they (and other people) present to the masses. I'm sure that many of you have heard the term "FAKEbook" when used to describe Facebook, right?  I remember the first time someone said that to me, I had to ask them what they were talking about because I honestly didn't know what they meant. FAKE book?  Like pretending like your life was great when it really wasn't?  WHY?  What would be the point of that?

I wasn't judging when I asked that question... I just literally didn't get it. And I know that I didn't get it because I don't do that. And when I don't do something, I assume naively, that other people don't either. 

Here's one thing I can promise you if you follow me here on my blog, or on any of my other social media platforms.... I won't use it as a means to present something that isn't true. If i'm not happy, you won't see me posting a picture where I look like I am. If things aren't good at home, you won't see me posting hand-holding, laughing and loving, coupley type photos. If one of my books isn't selling very many copies, you sure as hell won't see me posting about how great it's doing. My social media is an extension of my life. And I try to live that life as authentically and truthfully as possible. I don't see the point in misleading people. I wouldn't want to be misled. And I believe it does a huge disservice to all of you who follow me.

The truth is, I actually think that social media in general can be very damaging to our psyche. It can make you feel very bad about yourself and your life. It's extremely easy to believe that what you have and who you are isn't good enough if you let it. But that's ridiculous! We can't measure our self-worth through other people's meticulously planned photos and overly scripted captions. As long as we are constantly comparing ourselves to what we perceive other people as having, we are robbing ourselves of joy.

Comparison is the enemy of joy. And it's really hard to be happy when you're always feeling like less than enough. Which is probably why I'm not a fan of the showy or braggy online mentality either. I'm not a big believer in showing off material things that most people don't have. You have a brand new $100,000 car? Good for you. You have the biggest diamond on Facebook? Cool. I could honestly give two shits about any of that stuff. Now that's not to say that I don't like anything nice because of course I do... you just won't usually see me posting about it because I don't think that's what truly matters (aside from the traveling because I want to share all of those experiences with you and I get really excited to show you all the things that I see! But it's never meant to brag. Ever.)

People.
Love.
Friendship.
Communication.
Experiences.
Life.

Those are what fuel my heart and soul. Those are the things I want to talk about... and post about.

Each one of us is on a journey. One that is uniquely our own. It's not for anyone else. I know that my path is meant for me, and only me, and I'm grateful for every single thing I've gone through so far in my life. I know who I am. I'm extremely secure and self-confident. I always have been. I know what makes me happy. I know what brings me joy. But I'm also in a constant state of growth and I love to learn new things. I strive to be a better person. And that's really what I hope you see when you interact with me online. :)

December 29, 2017

Goodbye 2017 and Hello 2018!

New Years has always made me happy. It's one of my favorite times of year. No matter what else is going on in my life, I always look forward to the hope and the joy that New Years Eve brings. There's something utterly magical about a New Years Eve night.... a time when dreams come out to play and all our hopes and wishes for the next year are conceived.

Each year I pick a theme that I center all my goals around. This year will be no different. I know exactly what I want. And my wish for you is that you'll be happy; truly, genuinely, purely happy. That you'll find what brings you joy and you'll get the opportunity to do it. And if you're already living that life, that you'll continue doing what makes you smile and fills you up inside. I believe that everything happens for a reason, no matter how much it hurts, or how badly it sucks at the time. It's usually the most painful events that give us the most soul growth. I hope that you'll choose to grow and that you'll remember that the hard times won't last forever. I pray that you'll be better off than you were before.

When Oprah left her daytime talk show, she ended it with a magnificent speech. Parts of that speech touched my heart so deeply back then - and when I found the words again - I realized how deeply they still resonated within me. So I wanted to share them with you. I hope her words light a spark that lead to a fire in your soul and in your heart.  

"What I knew for sure from this experience is that we are all called. Everybody has a calling, and your real job in life is to figure out what that is and get about the business of doing it. 

Every time we have seen a person on this stage who is a success in their life, they spoke of the job, and they spoke of the juice that they receive from doing what they knew they were meant to be doing. We saw it in the volunteers who rocked abandoned babies in Atlanta. We saw it with those lovely pie ladies from Cape Cod making those delicious potpies. ... We saw it every time Tina Turner, Celine, Bocelli or Lady Gaga lit up the stage with their passion. 

Because that is what a calling is. 

It lights you up and it lets you know that you are exactly where you're supposed to be, doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing. 

And that is what I want for all of you.

To live from the heart of yourself. 

You have to make a living; I understand that. 

But you also have to know what sparks the light in you so that you, in your own way, can illuminate the world."

I am so thankful for each and every one of you. Thank you for being a part of my life. I can't wait for 2018!

December 9, 2017

Adios Pantalones Update

Ryan Fisher's book is coming! If you've already pre-ordered it on Amazon then you might have gotten a notification email about it. I pushed the release date back a month because I'm not quite finished yet and I don't like to rush my stories. You guys don't like it when I rush either, so.. Ryan's gotten a little delay. :) He will now be released on March 7th.


Click here to pre-order on Amazon now:
http://amzn.to/2iI8XxF

I'm so excited about this book you guys! Ryan is.. well, he's Ryan. He's so damn loveable and the brothers are all so funny when they're together. I absolutely love being in their world. Plus, this is the first time I've ever written about a single mom and that seems so crazy to me, considering that I was one for so many years.

I absolutely love writing about things I know, things I've experienced and things I hope for. Writing a single mom is making it very easy to do exactly that- even if I want to smack some sense into her character at times. lol

I know you guys are going to love this story and I can't wait for you to read it. You know, once I finish it. HA

Until then, I hope you have a great holiday. I hope that you are surrounded by love, friends, family and all the things that make you happy and bring you joy (aren't those the same things? I think they are lol). 


December 5, 2017

Books on sale!

Amazon has put The Perfect Game AND The Game Changer on sale for only $1.99 each this holiday season!

All 4 books in the series are FREE if you're a Kindle Unlimited member (there's also a free 30-day trial). 

Click here to meet the Carter's!
http://amzn.to/2jQNp1U


November 20, 2017

Happy Thanksgiving!

Just a quick note to tell all my stateside peeps, Happy Thanksgiving!  I'm not sure what you do, or how you spend the holiday, but I hope you are surrounded by loved ones (in all capacities-  siblings, friends, etc).



I hope you are thankful. It's so easy to lose sight and focus on the things that we don't have-  to get caught up in all the things we're still fighting for - all the goals we still want to accomplish or achieve. It's so easy to feel bad. But do me a favor, will you? Right now.. take a breath... hell, take one more and let all the things that you DO have fill your thoughts. Think about the people who love you. Think about the people who support you and want to see you happy and successful.

Stop beating yourself up. Let all of that negativity go. Love yourself. Love your life. It's not always perfect and it's definitely not always easy... but it's yours. No one gets your life but you. Make it great. Even when it's hard. :)

November 14, 2017

Signed paperback's updated and available!

I just got a huge shipment of paperback's in because I know how you guys like to have signed books for your collection! Trust me, I get it. I treasure all of the signed copies I have!! 

Plus, they make great Christmas gifts-  for yourself, or for the book lover in your life!  :) 

Head on over to my STORE and get your shop on! NO BAD DAYS and GUY HATER are both available (even though they aren't shown in the picture). 

Happy shopping!

October 30, 2017

My love for baseball

For those of you who don't know, I'm a HUGE baseball fan!  Mainly, my boys in blue... The Los Angeles Dodgers! So unless you've been living under a rock, or you really, really, really, hate sports, then you know that my boys are currently playing in the World Series.  #LA #ThisTeam

These games are giving me heart attacks! They're some of the best played, most stressful ball games I've ever sat through and watched. It's the highest of highs, followed by the lowest of lows- but it makes for some amazing baseball.

With that being said, if you love baseball the way I do and you want to combine your love of sports with your love of romance reading, then you have got to read The Perfect Game series! Jack F'n Carter is the hottest baseball player in the game. Have you met him yet?  Go fall in love today with my most favorite loveable screw-up. :)















#23 on the field, #1 in your heart.